Too many of us think that we have to be married in order to be happy and enjoy our life. I know what that feels like, I have been there. Sometimes this feeling may be spurred on by feelings of loneliness and/or by sexual desire.
Let’s see what Paul writes about this: 1 Corinthians 7: 8-9 “Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. 9 But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion”.
1 Corinthians 7: 3-4 There is a difference between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman cares about the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit. But she who is married cares about the things of the world—how she may please her husband.
So, we see that there are advantages to being single. The single woman can devote herself to serving God and not be divided by the need to serve or please her husband. The woman is called upon in the bible to be obedient to her husband: Ephesians 5: 22-24 “Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.” Now, that is a scripture that is not well received by many wives😊 Especially where it says “in everything” 😊 Some women marry with no intention of being obedient to their husband, in fact they plan on having their husband be obedient to them 😊 This approach, however, is not scriptural.
I have been married several times. One of the things I have learned is that just because someone is, or says, they are “born again” does not mean that they are compatible with you. I remember having a discussion with one of my ex-husbands where I mentioned a scripture that I felt supported my view, and he said, “leave God out of this”. I did not feel loved so I asked him what the scripture that says a man should love his wife as Christ loves the church meant to him and he said “we should not get divorced.” It is very important to ask God for the right spouse. If he tells you that someone is not right for you, He is telling you for your own good and you should heed His advice.
Now that I am older, I have no desire to remarry. In fact, I am at the opposite end of the spectrum. I cannot even imagine being married. God would probably have to send an angel with a flaming sword to tell me that I should get remarried😊 I am so resistant to the idea. So, if you are single and have put enjoyment of your life on hold, until you get married, know that you are depriving yourself of the opportunity to enjoy your life today. Find things that you enjoy doing. If you are lonely, try to find opportunities to be with others. We should not base the enjoyment of our life on the actions of a spouse. We are responsible for how much joy we have in our lives.